A couple more of the wild diaper bandits:
Star Behavior Charts re-born!
They are allowed one warning because perfection is an impossible goal, but usually all I have to say is: “oh – I hope that isn’t a bad attitude I hear because you wouldn’t want to not get a star tonight!” and wa-la! All is calm again.
We also came up with some rewards if the girls meet their goals. My girls LOVE to sleep in the same room in their bunk beds. We stopped letting them do this on school nights because they can’t control themselves and they stay up WAY too late talking and playing. So during the school year sleeping in the same room is a weekend treat. Since it’s summer and the girls can stay up later and sleep in a bit I told them that if they get all of their stars each day, they can sleep in the same room that night. Works great because they have something that reinforces their good behavior instantly each night. If they get all of their stars for the whole week, they get to pick one of the other rewards we came up with together. Playdate with a friend, yogurt or cupcake (we love visiting two little shops for these fun treats), movie with popcorn (my girls watch movies all the time but if Kenny and I actually sit down and watch one with them and pop popcorn it’s suddenly a special treat), and dinner of choice (McDonald’s here we come). When I first made these charts one reward was a surprise at Target. DUMB idea. We were buying a new toy every weekend. Now I make sure the rewards are things that are easy to pull off. They are actually things we often do anyway – but it’s good for the kids to know they are special treats and not always just a given. Am I right or am I right? :)
The stars velcro on and my girls love putting on their own stars. They can’t wait to do it at the end of the day! Even though it took a little more time, I’m so glad I made a separate chart for each of my girls.
These charts have yet to let me down. Like with most things involving children, consistency is key! I’ve found that a little extra motivation can be a very powerful thing. :)
Anyone else doing something special to keep kiddos on track this summer? I’d love to hear about it!
p.s. You can see my original Star Behavior Chart post here (my girls look so little!). If you are in my current camp and have NO time to come up with a cute color coordinated system like this one, don’t fret! You can always re-create the three kids vs. two kids Star Behavior Charts I made after I had baby #3. Those worked like a charm as well. :)
And while we’re on the subject of having no time – do you love that we are over half way through June and I still have my Spring blog header up!? Nice. At this rate I might as well skip a Summer header and jump straight into Fall. Of course here in San Diego our seasons all feel the same anyway. Guess I’m not that behind afterall. ;)
Recent and Random
See the silver clock on this picture of my mantel from a couple of years ago? It was the first thing I bought for our current house about ten years ago. When our house was being built I started getting so excited to finally decorate a place of my own. Kenny and I had only lived in apartments up to that point and all of our furniture was either leftovers from family members or wedding gifts (and we were so poor we were lucky to have what we did!). But Law School was almost over and Kenny and I both had real jobs waiting for us in California. So I decided it was time to break free of our poor struggling student chains! I went to Pottery Barn (because what better place to stage a break out) and bought this clock. It was around $45 and I remember feeling like it was such a splurge! I winced at the checkout counter when the lady rang it up and days later I almost took it back. I felt so guilty spending that much on a clock! But I didn’t take it back and it is still in my house today and is a fun reminder of how exciting it was to finally pick out my own home decor for a place of our own.
So when I was out shopping last week and just happened upon a Pottery Barn (it’s a true mystery how I always seem to end up in that place…)
Isn’t it fun!? Found it at Home Goods. When Kenny saw it he said “oh great. You bought another stacker so you can stack more stuff.” He clearly doesn’t get it. I want to paint my “stacker” and make fun new labels for whatever I do decide to stack inside. It’s located next to our garage door so I’m thinking it will be great for cell phones, keys, wallets, miscellaneous stuff the kids need each day. One more thing on my list of future projects!
Today was our first day of summer and Ellie spent in on the beach! She is doing her lifeguard camp again (pics are from last summer) so she is one happy girl. And my car is one sandy mess. As it will be for the next two weeks.
Of course once Ellie was home the kids entertained each other all afternoon and it made me so happy! I was just soaking in the fact that we didn’t have anywhere we needed to rush to. Nowhere we needed to be. Just free time to do whatever we wanted! Kids played in the backyard.
I turned on my go to for music – “Pandora” – internet radio on the TV. I have it set to play “Lenka” music. I love Lenka and it plays not only her songs but anything else that sounds at all similar to her. I did a little cleaning…
I pulled out my list from last January and updated it a bit. Slowly but surely I’ll tackle all of the spaces I want to organize this year. Summer is a great time to organize. Right along with Winter and Spring and Fall.
Thanks for the little things
School Days
Goin’ Fishin’
Another amazing tribute to my dad was this picture that Del Parson painted of him to hang on the college campus. Del Parson is an amazing artist who paints a lot of portraits for the LDS church. My mom was worried about how it would look and we all kept teasing her saying “Del paints pictures of Jesus for crying out loud! I’m sure dad’s portrait will turn out just fine!” ;)
My mom looked so beautiful the day of the party. She is so happy my dad is retiring. We all are! This is a picture of her with two of her best friends. Their daughters are two of my best friends and they are like second moms to me. :)
Then I asked the guys to get in a picture and my brother decided to be a dork and pose. So I asked him to knock it off and to just sit up and smile…
Several pictures later I finally got this one. Thank you Austin. It’s always such a pleasure getting you to be serious. **Notice my husband plastered on a smile and didn’t move in all three pics. He has been trained well.
New house update – designing my office!
I love this wrap around desk. I also like the look of the open shelves above, but that forces you to be really tidy with your storage! Still debating if I want open or closed cabinetry in my office. Maybe a mix?
At one point I debated a separate desk/homework area for the kids – something similar to the pictures above, but if I do an island I think that will function well for a kids’ space.
I want to leave room on one wall for some sort of inspiration board and a place to display current layouts I’ve done or art work from the kids. Love the yellow striped ceiling in this picture!
Our weekend – true story
I swear that’s all I did this weekend. Wash dishes. I could have taken ten pictures of the stacks and stacks of dishes I washed. And while I washed I thought about my sweet grandma who never had a dishwasher a day in her life. How did she manage? And then I thought about my kitchen plans for our new house which includes two dishwashers. And I wanted to weep for joy.
My new Project Life page protectors came in the mail. I ordered them in an attempt to motivate myself to scrapbook this summer. I don’t need new page protectors. But I do need some motivation. And some extra time would be a nice bonus.
My presentation went great last week – so much fun. (Thanks for all of your encouraging words!) It went so well in fact that I inspired myself to do a little organizing. ;)
and completely getting away with it because all it takes is one flash of this smile and his mother is so smitten that all is immediately forgiven.
Over 30 ways to organize your home
I know – have a toy, right!?
Clear organizers in the hutch to hold miscellaneous items like cords, decor, and remotes my husband won’t let me get rid of…
For when the girls and I are in the mood to get fancy. :)
I think I can…
(While these bags have been moved from the kitchen to the bedrooms they are still not unpacked and probably won’t be anytime in the near future. Aside from my laptop of course. Funny how I can always squeeze in a minute or two for blogging… I’m all about priorities…) :)
I spent the last two days downtown with my little dancers and all of their friends. Six hours of practice and waiting to practice on dress rehearsal day and six hours of dancing and waiting to dance on performance day (they put on the show twice).
I volunteered to stay the whole time and help entertain the little ones while they were waiting for their turn to dance. While most of the girls colored and played games, I put Addie right to work on her birthday thank you notes.
And it’s show time! Oh my word they were cute. SO cute. Both of my girls did a darling job. I didn’t take a single picture of them dancing because I didn’t want to take my eyes off of them and miss a thing. But this dance extravaganza weekend wore me out. I told Kenny tonight we are so NOT taking dance next year. And I mean it. Right up until I change my mind next week and sign the girls up again. The whole time I was watching the first show I was thinking about how many hours my parents spent watching me dance. I danced from age 4 all the way through college. All of the recitals, practices, football and basketball games, competitions… how did they do it!? Funny how much more you appreciate your parents once you become a parent yourself. (Love you mom and dad)
My girls still have two more weeks of school left and then life should finally calm down. At least that’s what I keep telling myself. I think I can make it to summer… I think I can I think I can….
I have something going on almost every night this week so I’m apologizing in advance if blogging is slow. One night I’m speaking in our ward (church group) on organization. I’ve done it before for another ward and it was so much fun. I’m excited. Once I start talking about organization it’s hard to get me to stop so my church friends are in for a long night. ;)
Six years old today
Q & A
I hope everyone had a great weekend! I thought I’d kick the week off with a Q & A post so here we go!
What are your thoughts on babysitting and how do you manage it? (i.e. how often do you use one, where did you find her, how much do they charge, do you have things you check about them first, how do you know the kids are happy with them, do they manage three kids ok, is it better to have someone older or do younger babysitters work ok too, etc.)
Whew! Now THAT was a question! :) A really good question. Babysitters are an absolute necessity in my opinion (unless you are lucky enough to live by grandparents who take over that duty!).
We don’t have a set amount of time that we use babysitters. On average, at least once during the weekend so Kenny and I can go on a date. Date nights are a huge priority for us. Especially since baby #3 came along. It’s the only time we can actually talk without interruptions! Regular evenings after kids are in bed don’t count – we are both plopped in front of the TV with our laptops completely exhausted from the day. Kenny makes sarcastic comments about whatever show we’re watching and I roll my eyes at him and blog the night away. We need our weekend date night to hold hands, focus on each other, and feel like a couple again. Other than that we get a babysitter whenever we need one. Lately because of the new house stuff – a lot! Right now we are averaging 2-3 times a week that we need a sitter. If it’s just for an hour or two after school, I have used girls age 12 and up. For an evening when kids need to be put to bed, I always get a sitter at least 15 years old. I just feel better about someone a little older at night time. I’m lucky because I know so many darling babysitters in my ward (church group). I know their families – I’m friends with most of their moms and know those moms are close by if there is an emergency. I have a list of about eight girls I can call who I know and trust and who my girls LOVE. My girls are at the age where getting a babysitter is like Christmas. Seriously. They get SO excited for a “teenager” to come over and do nothing but play with them. Kole always cries when I leave, but is over it two minutes later (I always ask!). All three of my kids handle sitters well because we use them a lot. Obviously I talk to my girls about their sitters (did you like her? what did you do?) – if there was ever a time they didn’t like someone or I didn’t feel good about someone I wouldn’t call them again, but that hasn’t happened yet. I usually hear – “when can we call HER again!?” As far as what we pay our sitters – we pay a generous hourly rate for two reasons: 1 – we live in an area where everything costs more and 2 – I want my babysitters to know that I value them and I want them to WANT to babysit for me. :) I think it’s best to ask other moms in your area this question because fees vary so much depending on where you live. My Utah friends pay a lot less than I do, but San Diego is an expensive place to live which unfortunately means everything costs more (including babysitting).
I have a question for you – do you keep any of your kids’ clothes? I know you are a master organizer, and through posts, it sounds like you send a lot to your niece, but everything?
“Master organizer” eh? I don’t know about that but I’m certainly not going to stop you from calling me one. ;) Ok – kids clothes. Man! I’ve said this before. Kids’ clothes are the HARDEST thing for me to get rid of! Seriously! I do so well with everything else – including a lot of their school work, but the clothes get me every time! I always think … “oh I have to keep this! It’s the shirt Addison wore for her first day of pre-school, or those were the pajamas El slept in every night at age 3, Kole came home from the hospital in this one. I can’t possibly get rid of it…” I’m a sucker for the memories that come with their little outfits!
So here’s what I’ve been doing with kids’ clothes. Every season I go through my kids’ closets. (I actually have this on my current to-do list right now for the summer.)
Yes! I still send a lot to my niece (isn’t she a doll). :) She is one year younger than Addison so size wise it works out great. I also have some friends with daughters younger than mine who I give clothes to from time to time. And I take a lot of stuff to Goodwill. I swear I’m there at least once a month! I have to admit though that right now I have three HUGE bags in my garage full of too small kids’ clothes. A lot of them are too small for my niece now because I’ve waited so long to get them to her. I need to figure out what to do with them. Some people have suggested selling them on eBay? The clothes are all nice and in great shape (mostly from Gap and Gymboree) but I don’t know if it’s worth the time to try to sell them? I’d love to hear what some of you do with kids’ clothes!
Erin, what do you do with all of the doll clothes and accessories and shoes??
When you have little girls this kind of stuff can take over your house! I used to have one drawer that held doll clothes, shoes, and accessories —
but with new dolls came new stuff the girls had to keep so this drawer is now for doll clothes only. And it doesn’t look nearly this neat. All the doll clothes get taken out and stuffed back in on a daily basis as dolls attend a variety of social events and functions. :) As long as the clothes end up in the drawer at the end of the day, I’m ok with the messy drawer. As far as doll shoes and accessories go…
Remember when I re-did Ellie’s closet? All of that little girl stuff that is so small and gets all over the place was driving me crazy! So I bought some clear plastic bins, organized all of their small toys, slapped some labels on them, and called it done!
One shelf holds small dolls, doll shoes, doll accessories (all of that random – what in the world do I do with all of this?), and one bin just for polly pockets and their clothes. This system has worked beautifully! We all know where to put things away and where to find things. And since I’m feeling a bit witty tonight I’ll add that I no longer “sweat the small stuff.” :) (Yeah… probably more tired than witty after all…)
What do you do with all of your kids’ little creations and notes and such? I have boxes and boxes of it all, and more keeps adding to the collection. Do you take photos of some and then toss them out?
Ok. The short answer is this: some stuff I save for my kids’ albums, some stuff I save to display, some stuff I save for me. If you want a more detailed answer, I’m going to direct you to three posts that will show you exactly what I do with everything. :)
Project Life Organization Update
What I do with kids’ school work
Hutch Organization (where I keep my keepsakes)
If one of your children makes you a really special mother’s day card or something, do you include that in their album or do you keep that in a keepsake box for yourself?
Similar question to the one above. If it is something that my kids have made for me, I keep it in my “Erin’s Keepsakes from the kids” box. Kenny and I each have our own. (See my hutch organization post I mentioned above).
If it is something that I want to keep for me AND I want my girls to have it in their albums, I usually take a picture of it for their books, and I keep the original. Here’s an example:
This note Ellie wrote me on the left (which is an all time favorite that I blogged about here) I actually took out of her album and put into my keepsake box. If you look at the bottom right of her book, I took a picture of it for her to keep. I wanted this story in her book, but had to keep the original for myself. :)
If one of your children has a special event like a birthday party, a baptism, etc. do you put a few photos of that event in all of the siblings albums too, to show the different things that happened that year? Or do you stick strictly to that child’s own events in their album?
Another great album question! Let’s say I’m developing Ellie’s 6th birthday photos. I develop a bunch for Ellie (usually a two page layout in her book with my favorite pics from the event – hoping from now on to limit this to a one side layout). Addison will get one maybe two pics from the party. Probably one of her and Ellie on El’s b-day and then a general pic of all the party guests or something. For Kole’s book I would include one picture – maybe Ellie blowing out candles or something and write in his album “Ellie turns 6!” So yes – I do try to document important sibling events in each album but the child experiencing the event gets several pictures while the other children get one maybe two. This is one of the many reasons I like to do separate albums for each child (even though it is a major time commitment!). I like the focus of their albums to be about their childhood, but this of course also includes what is happening with siblings.
I have been following your blog for several months and love it! My question is what is your workout and diet plan? — I agree with the last person, a workout post would be great. How do you stay in such good shape? — An idea for your new Q & A section, could you share your workout routine with us??!
So many questions about exercise this time around! (And thanks for the sweet comments that went with them!) My exercise routine changes with the wind. Seriously! I have to constantly adapt to the current schedule/situation with my kids. Only one thing remains certain: I always exercise! It’s great to look good, but it’s even better to feel good. I feel so much better when I exercise and I’m a big believer that something is better than nothing. When I started therapy with Kole in our mornings it ended my walks/runs with friends. So this is what I currently do: I pack lunches and lay out clothes the night before, kids are up at 6:30 and I get them all dressed and fed and me in my workout clothes. Around 7:40 Kenny heads out to take the girls to school and Kole and I head out on our walk/run. Therapy starts at 9:00 (they come to my house) and I need a little time to pick up the house and wipe the sweat off of my face before the therapists come so I have 45 min – 1 hour to exercise. (This only works if I have everything ready the night before so we are ready to walk out the door with the girls.) I put Kole in the jogger and we’re off! I walk the first half of our route (usually mentioning and pointing to everything along the way “see the dog Kole! woof woof! say dog!) and then the second half I jog. I say to Kole “ready, set, and he says GO!” His first word he learned in therapy. :) So workout routine isn’t anything too special. Just a walk/run with my boy in the jogging stroller. Here is my diet plan (if you can really call it that): I maintain my weight by eating a lot of the same things. Usually Bran Chex for breakfast (because it’s fast and easy and I like them), and my turkey sandwich, baked lays and strawberries for lunch…
Dinner is always different – usually a Lean Cuisine because of convenience, working late husband, and hatred of cooking, but if I do cook something else I just control my portions. Always popcorn for a snack. Of course I snack during the day. Sometimes healthy, sometimes not so healthy. I just always exercise and I always pay attention to what I’m eating. If I’ve had a cookie earlier in the day, that was my treat and I try to eat better the rest of the day. Exercise is key because I always eat better if I’ve exercised.
Additional posts I’ve written about exercise and healthy eating:
My #1 priority
Healthy Eating
Kicking it in gear
Workout music
I hope those answers helped some of you! I didn’t have time for all of your questions, so I’ll do another Q & A post soon. If you have any of your own answers to these questions that might be helpful to others or a question for me please feel free to comment!